Rinse and chop bittergourd into small pieces. Discard the seeds. Also rinse and chop onion, tomatoes into tiny pieces. Now heat oil in tava. Add onions. Wait till onion splits and add tomatoes along with salt. Allow it to smash and add tamarind pulp, other powders followed by bittergourd. Mix well. Close the lid. Stir then and then. When bittergourd is half cooked add jaggery, mix well and close the lid. Allow the veggie to get cooked.
The tomatoes, tamarind extract and jaggery take off the bitterness from bittergourd and is likely to kids also. This goes well for chapathi's and curd rice.
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